My Personal Commandments

Today I wanted to share my 10 Personal Commandments that I came up with in June. As I’ve mentioned before, 2018 has been a year of extraordinary growth for me – I bought a house, got married, changed careers, began and ended relationships – so it should come as no surprise that I have been focusing more on personal growth. I want to end the year with a clear picture of who I am and who I want to be, as well as have a plan for how I am going to get there.

Well, it’s a good thing that my first (and probably most important) Personal Commandment is to Be (100 percent, unapologetically) Britnie.

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From the Overflow

About a year ago, I discovered this wonderful podcast called Happier with Gretchen Rubin. It changed my life. Since I began listening to it, I have been happier, healthier, and more productive – and I’m not lying! I listened to one of the newest episodes of the time – Find Your Oasis – and I was instantly intrigued. I went back to episode 1 and began binge-listening to it almost immediately. It was an interesting way to spend a strength workout!

A quick overview of that episode in case you don’t plan to listen or read the show notes – Gretchen and Liz advise us to find an Oasis in our week (Liz gets a weekly massage and I am so envious) and remind us that healthy treats are a good thing. We are reminded of many Strategies for Happiness (and Habit Change) relating to The Four Tendencies framework, knowing oneself better (in this case it was abstainer vs moderator), loopholes, planned exceptions, and using the Strategy of “the clean slate” to change one’s habits. Also, Gretchen gives herself a happiness demerit for doing what is urgent instead of what is important. Liz gives a gold star to a speaker, author, and podcaster who has spoken at her son’s school. There were so many interesting things in this episode that I immediately wanted to know more.

Part 2 of my workout was spent taking the Four Tendencies Quiz and discovering my Tendency – when it comes to expectations, who am I? What are my patterns? How is this something that I can use to better myself, and as the tagline of the show suggests, lead a happier, healthier, more productive life? Continue reading “From the Overflow”

Communicating Effectively is of Utmost Importance

Today, I’m reminding myself that communication is important. And that I am horrible at communicating on a personal level – if it’s anything to do about how i feel and why i feel this way, I can’t make the words happen. I’m much better writing about how I feel – if it’s somewhat abstract, like a blog post.

Here’s the thing: I can’t have a happy marriage, or happy and healthy relationships of any kind, if I don’t step up and articulate my needs and wants. Continue reading “Communicating Effectively is of Utmost Importance”

The Journey Begins (Again!)

Hello! My name is Britnie, and I’m jumping head-first back into the blogging world after an extended absence. This time – hopefully – with a little more care and understanding of the world than I had when I was a 13 year old girl on LiveJournal trying to figure out what was happening in the world.

At the time of this post, I am 27 years old, newly and happily married, cat-companion and house-owner. I have a background in education, daycare, and surprisingly enough I worked in the security industry for 3 years. I practice meditation, I wish that I could get myself back into yoga and martial arts, and I’m a spiritual kind of gal. Some of that is probably going to show up in my blog, as well as: happy and unhappy memories, human emotion, frustrations, unpleasant and pleasant memories, kind and unkind words, opinions that have or will be changed as I grow as a person, cats, candles, music, frank discussions on mental health, Harry Potter, video games, and tea. That is not a complete list by any means, and I’m sure that I won’t be able to follow a list if I tried to predict myself. I will attempt to tag specific things that may be upsetting – triggers and squicks, if applicable. I will definitely go on weird tangents because my brain is full of rabbit holes. Continue reading “The Journey Begins (Again!)”

Considering Emotions

The following is a re-post of something I wrote on my Tumblr blog but felt it very important to share here. It is from 3 days ago, and I wrote it after a particularly strong (though thankfully short) mood swing. I do not approach this with any feelings or intentions of blame. Includes mentions of eating disorder, depression, and feelings of worthlessness.

I have inappropriate emotional reactions to a lot of things. All the time. And by inappropriate, I don’t mean wrong – I mean that the depth of emotion that I feel and (occasionally) express is disproportionate to the trigger. Thus is life. I’m learning how to safely acknowledge and express these emotions, and when they’re inappropriate and harmful I am shutting them down more quickly and effectively than before. But. Continue reading “Considering Emotions”

Kavanaugh and Ford: some thoughts

So, I’m going to start off by saying that I haven’t been following this story particularly closely, and I certainly do not know all of the facts and trivia tidbits. However, it’s been pretty difficult to get away from – there’s been tons of coverage on NPR, my Google feed, and Facebook – so I wanted to weigh in on a personal level. Because I do have some Thoughts about this, both as a Citizen of the United States of America, and as a woman.

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